Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

4. Don't talk about her feelings for OM, it just brings them BACK TO HER AGAIN... STOP ROMANTICIZING her affair talking about her "feelings for him" and how he "broke her heart".. you sound like HER... stop that

I will stop it. I said it in a sarcastic tone and implicating I know she is lying.

[quote[\]"I am going to call OMW sometimes to keep everything in the OPEN.. when people engage in TALK that is DESTRUCTIVE to their MARRIAGE BEHIND their spouses BACK it IS FAIR to CONFRONT THAT ACTIVITY.. and I WILL do that... If I go BEHIND YOUR BACK to do HARM to our MARRIAGE you can call me on that too... I would appreciate it, it will help me fly straighter and be fair to you... but this is RECIPROCAL... I will call OMW to check in on her marriage to make sure its getting better.. Its' the ADULT thing to do... YOU talking to her Husband BEHIND HER BACK was doing DAMAGE...damage I am trying to repair... ok?"[/quote]

OMW and OM said over the phone that all communication must and will stop. OMW and I are protecting ourselves as well as our marriages at the same time my W and OM are not aware of this talk going on. Their rational is/would be "If they can do it so can we." OM doe snot OMW talking to me period, he want to put this all in behind them. For him it is that easy, as they work on their marriage my W is still hooked and we live in misery.

Just so I am clear, I was not using my cellphone but rather my neighbors home phone that I accidentally left on the counter, so giving my W my cell phone will not do anything for her because she now assumes I am calling them form another phone anyway.