I will get over to your thread if you like, but D4ML may want to hear some of this.
Blame--all do it regardless of personality.
OW--you need her to be the angry one--not you. They detest conflict.
"Let him be the man". Treat him very respectfully. He loves to help--get him to help you and reward him in his LL LOTS. Especially helpful with "conflicts" of some sort--they are expert at smoothing over bad feelings by seeing both sides. Ask him to help you with a difficult co-worker or family member. Do just what he tells you to do--phlegmatics are good at this, and when people resist, they move on to help someone else who is more receptive.
If you have been doninating him, you need to STOP NOW. Do not interrupt him. Get him to make suggestions on ANYTHING and DO it.
They are SOOO sensitive. Usually their LL is words--they love to be built up. It threw me a bit that D4ML's is gifts. If yours is words, you CAN NOT say too much to build him up--you will think you've overdone it--it can't be done.lol.
