thanks for the validation all - I am trying to self soothe and not let it get to me.
It's all I can do to refrain from "talking about it" with him. NOw that we are in MC only twice per month it's more tempting. It's my home now, don't I have a right to lay a boundary about not complaining about how messed up he thinks everything is or how wrong I am? Maybe. On the other hand, will he hear it? Possibly not.
SOrry, Laura, can't be happy. I'm not going to reward his obnoxiousness. However, I am working on letting it go and not taking it personally, or internalizing blame for being "too sensitive". That's the hard part. LIke Alice says, showing no emotion is the best. Hard when he can read all my subtle cues of being hurt. But I kept my mouth shut and walked away. I have no more marriage, so I don't need pain as well.
