Wow CityGirl, that is messed up. What could he possibly need? You've been physically separated for over two years. Is he going to do this crap for the rest of your life? He sounds like he's got some deep seated guilt he can't shake. No matter what he does, he just can't shake it, and he keeps looking to you to give him some sort of "Get out of purgatory free" card. You're doing awesome, just let him flail in the wind.
