help some advice plse..have i finished it for good

[imLIN]

I learned patience...believe me I was not THAT patient before all of this...and I do believe to get through a MLC you must have patience or get it, if not forget it!

Take care,

Lin

[JacT]

Thank you my dear friend you take care too.I will keep you posted.Priority needs to be work at the moment.(((hugs)))

[lees]

How you doing today JacT?

[JacT]

I have had a productive day.I have to find a job to be able to support my girls and which will hopefully distract me from this mess.I am slowly but surely convincing myself that if I get back to work, it may trigger a reactin from H but he doesnt know whats going on and probably doesnt care.
I have to accept that maybe the case.

[imLIN]

You will be so happy with yourself, I know I was...it empowers you when you are taking care of yourself...that is when H realized that I didn't really "need" him...

Take care

[JacT]

Thank you my friend for popping by.I was voted the 33rd most influential business woman in Scotland.I have don really well in my career.I earn good money, have a lovely home,financially independent...but I did it all for us..my H has always known I am independent in every way...I am now going to work to live not live to work...I have had 13 months out cos I was so devestated by this mess, nothing mattered.Maybe that was a bigger problem for him than I ever thought.OW never worked, lives in a pokey 2 bedroom flat,has a car becuase her daughter has a disability, buys cheap, looks cheap, gets everything paid by the government and is pig ugly into the bargain..god they dont half knock your self esteem.....
I am starting to see my old self coming back slowly but surely..I will not fail.I love my girls too much to let them suffer any more...thanks Lin I so appreciate it.((hugs))

[lees]

Keep at it JacT.

Glad to see you're getting yourself back. Any more news on the job front?

[JacT]

Lots of positive news on the job front dont think I will be too long which is a relief.A mutal friend told me today H just back from holiday with her and her kids.They are planning to move house apparently.Have to acept hes happy however still no pursuing of Divorce. Still not telling all the rotten things hes doing like running past his kids.Apparently the fact hes txt every day means hes really trying..whatever..still cares about me..think I would prefer him to spew..lost him no doubt.Got to get on with life now.

[JacT]

Well the txt has arrived 3 months after the first.HAVE YOU HAD ANY MORE THOUGHTS SINCE THE LAST TIME I CONTACTED YOU?
Yes is that the ones on divorce,the affair,abandoning your children,ignoring them,not asking about them going on hols with ow,you moving house,how eveil your girlfriends is??Dont know what I am going to do...maybe I just have to let go.

[MrBond]

Don't respond to the text. For yourself, detach and start living for yourself.