Not necessarily. There are still 20% who manage to make it in spite of their family histories.
I've been talking to Larry Bilotta at StopYourDivorcein4Weeks.com. He's controversial and kind of expensive (thank goodness for payment plans!), but after my 3rd call yesterday -- where he told me that he was AMAZED that WH has held out this long in re-enacting the sins of his father (the average is about 7 years) and WS would have done this to ANYONE he married, not just me -- I'm beginning to see and understand things very differently.
We're all here in this forum with our hearts on our sleeves because we can't understand why, if we're good people, we're being forced to endure such heartache of a failing marriage. The reality is that it has very little to do with us and almost everything to do with our families of origin.
Jesse James said in an interview earlier this week that the reason he cheated on Sandra Bullock was because of an abusive childhood. Once upon a time, I would have scoffed at that, because my childhood was very Norman Rockwell-like and I couldn't begin to relate.
But having reviewed WH childhood with Larry and seeing how the pattern has repeated itself generation after generation in his family history, I'm not scoffing anymore. I'm thinking, "OMG! Have I scarred my kids?"
The good news is you CAN break the cycle IF you do something different, as you pointed out in your previous post. My next few calls with Larry will show me how to do that, and I'm excited beyond belief...
