Alice is right--he is obnoxious. I have one of these at home too.lol.
Who has been married for 15 years waiting for their H to get a clue? (yes, my hand is wildly waving in the air.lol).
Guess who needed to get a clue?? ME!
It's been me, all along. There is NO such thing as waiting for him to stop this.
He is waiting for YOU to stop this. And he's ticked that you aren't doing it!!
Men base their "moods" on their W"s. We are cheerful and happy no matter what? They become cheerful. Everything must be Ok if we are happy--they must be doing a decent job if we are happy, right? If we are constantly worried, paranoid, going on about this and that--omg--guys are ready to BOLT from Ws like that. You didn't do that when you were dating (course you had "in-love" drugs coursing through your veins at the time).
Your PMA is all he has to bring him out of his funk--YOU have to get more self-confidence and NOT REACT. Be happy! Fake it until you make it!! You hear that around here for a reason!!
And you know what H4L? Doing what I have been doing (detaching, GAL, walking away from him ) has made me so FLIPPIN HAPPY!!! He does of course still say obnoxious things--I DON"T CARE!!!
PLEASE--join me in this fabulous state--you are not going to regret it and will giggle like a kid all day long! I seriously have never known such freedom!
Oh, and come by my thread and see how naughty I've been, and I even got a pat on my head today.lol!
