One thing I have learned from this entire situation is that women can REALLY hold onto a grudge and be VERY nasty. I always thought it was a cliche before, but this situation has really opened my eyes. My wife although cordial, has turned into an ice queen
Women hold onto memories when they were emotionally hurt by someone that they expected to care for, support and love them. Their feelings are hurt and until you do something to acknowledge and remedy the hurt they stay hurt. Your wifes feelings matter. Be aware.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.