"It resolved when H admitted he was very upset with himself and took it out on me. I tried to validate and told him that I understood that and that I know I have done that many times to him. I told him I forgave him even before he apologized. He thanked me."
That was pretty solid stuff.
"Maybe they do."
Never underestimate the thoughts of an "outsider". After being married for 40 years.. the chances that they have been thru something like this themselves.. is pretty good. Plus parents have that 6th sense.
"I think this is why I am so against the idea of a giving a time frame/deadline to the mC. If I say we have until Dec. to see improvement. H could just wait it out. Then he leaves and it was partly my choice too because we got to my date and things weren't better."
There is no time limit. You don't need one. You will know when it is time to throw in the towel. As long as you are comfortable with things.. and they feel healthy for you.. just keep doing it. He is responding to the C in a somewhat positive way.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
