help with a plan

[mza8]

Hi IDU. Just read your last post. Just my 2 cents but I don't see how your W is being an a$$? See agreed to MC which has got to be a huge step for her. She was probably very apprehensive about agreeing to MC in the first place...a big step for her. She probably figured you might push the envelope with her and want more right away and you did. Now she's pulling back a little. I can understand that.

I've read on here that so many times when a W starts to show the slightest sign of movement the H jumps all over it and wants more. It's difficult not to, I know. If I were you I would just be happy right now that she is going to MC and take it slowly one step at a time. You're finally beginning to see some progress. You've been patient this long. Continue to be patient with the schedule she is comfortable with.

You said you weren't sure why she finally wants to go to MC. I understand your anxiety but it might be starting to show to your W. She knows why you want to go. My advice would be to just go to the MC and see what happens. My W wanted MC at the beginning for closure. I wanted to go for reconiliation. At this point in my sitch I would be happy if she would still consider MC at all. I would take any way I could to get her into MC now.

Again, this is just my observation for what it's worth. I know you're wanting more from your W right now but maybe just continue to take it one step at a time and not pressure her? Good luck with your MC!