(((peace))) My heart breaks for your kids. Just keep reassuring them that their father leaving has nothing to do with them...kids internalize so much.
In my opinion, it would take someone in a very dark and twisted place to abandon their kids...their family. I, like most people, could never think the way they do and have difficulty understanding it. I know when my mother left when I was 15 she blamed all of us for everything. She was able to justify things in her mind that way. Even though we have a great relationship now, she still harbors anger about the situation years ago and can't look at the fact that she abandoned me and my brother for those 2 years. It is kind of crazy.
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they continue to avaoid any responsibility for their actions and maybe some can rationalize it in their minds and that may work for a while..but I guess you cant really esacape the pain you have caused others in the end, you will be haunted forever
I pretty certain that there are people that will go to the grave not ever owning up to doing anything wrong. Maybe that is what hell is about...spending eternity finally understanding the pain you caused others.
As always, you are doing a good job at staying positive. Your kids need you to be strong and to listen to them. I can only imagine how hurt your son must have been when his father never called him back. Hopefully he sees that his father isn't well. Do your kids know yet that he got remarried?
