H overslept. I tried to wake him when I woke up. Then sent S5 in there 3 times to wake him while I handled breakfasts, packing lunches, helping the kids get dressed for school, etc. When H finally awoke he lashed out at me because he slept so late. He said I "could have helped more". Instead of my typical apology, I lashed back. It resolved when H admitted he was very upset with himself and took it out on me. I tried to validate and told him that I understood that and that I know I have done that many times to him. I told him I forgave him even before he apologized. He thanked me.
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Don't overdo it. You also want them to see that a woman can build up a man... when she puts her mind to it.
Absolutely!! Thank you for that.
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Really.. you think so? After 40 years? They don't know?
Maybe they do. They live so far away, we only see them 3 or 4 times a year. I guess I was thinking they were removed enough to not know. Of course they know that even good M have lots of down times. My mother does go very out of her way to compliment my H....maybe she's been trying to show me what I have been missing. I would never discuss this with them. I would never want to fog their relationship with my H.
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Walk in the house knowing that today.. you made a random person smile. And you could do it again tomorrow. One day.. just by doing that.. you H is gonna smile.
Yes, I have been doing this. I've started wearing a rubber band on my wrist to remind me to snap out of it and share some joy. This came about because I felt so bad 2 days in a row and I forgot to do it, and it made me feel worse. One night I went out to the grocery very late, because I was determined not to miss out that day. I walked the isles armed with my coupons until I found someone about to buy something that I had a coupon for. I shared and she was elated!.
