Thanks ... and yep, I'm working really hard on not having any expectations surrounding the time he spends at the house with us. I'm also making sure that my nights out, when he's at the house with the kids, are really good me time Nails, hair, massages, long chats with girlfriends, working with my part-time business and long walks on the beach (we have some of the prettiest beaches in the world!) are all helping me reunite with me.
I'm also sure to use the time when H is around to show my 180s, especially surrounding his parenting and me butting my nose out He is a fantastic Daddy, and I'm just realizing that all my 'helping' and 'running interference' came across as "you can't do this" or "I'm better at this than you" ... and if I'm really honest with myself, I did probably think that by times. I was wrong. Different isn't not as good ... it's just different, and my kids are going to benefit tremendously by having a loving, involved Daddy who can show them things and teach them things from a perspective which is different than their Moms.
You know ... I probably did see it a long, loooong time ago but I'm not remembering it at all ... sorry
I was also thinking that it wouldn't hurt for us to not be there every once in a while when he shows up on Thursday to cut the grass ... just enough to let him know that I'm not sitting there waiting for him. I have a life, we have a life, and the kids and I enjoy our time with and without him.
Peace, PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Nails, hair, massages, long chats with girlfriends, working with my part-time business and long walks on the beach (we have some of the prettiest beaches in the world!) are all helping me reunite with me. 
