And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

No worries Eric ... I kinda did it myself

So I took the kiddos for supper at a fast food joint (but I was good Jack - just a wrap and a diet coke!) and then we went to get groceries (not a small feat with 3 kids age 6 and under!). Home, snacks, bedtime and then a bubble bath for me

H landed this morning and we chatted etc. Then I said in a casual tone "H, we need to figure this out so it works a little better ... the house isn't tidy when we're switching back and forth and the grass isn't getting cut ..." (as background, since we're sharing the house, expenses and chores we decided I would continue to do the grocery shopping, he would cut the grass and we would make sure the house was tidy at trade off). Then I said "let me know if you have any ideas for making this easier" (big 180 for me, the old me would have dictated how it was going to work and not even asked for input).

A few minutes later, H says "I think I'll come cut the grass after work today" (it's my night to be at the house with the kids) and I said, casually "you're more than welcome to stay for supper" and he said that's great, that's what I'll do then. The boys daycare is right across the street from where he works so I asked if he wanted to pick up the boys or if he still wanted me to so he could come straight out and get a head start on the grass and he said he'd rather go straight home (another 180 for me, normally I would have argued that the plan didn't make sense because it puts me out of my way and the boys are right there etc ... I just said OK ) Then he went on to say that he was going to plan on cutting the grass on Thursdays (my day) and Sundays (family day), and that maybe, on Thursdays, we could do supper out as a family, get the groceries and then come out and he could cut grass. I said something along the lines of that works ... sounds good ...

It's nice to see him finally making decisions and planning a bit ... and it's nice to have gotten out of his way so he could Just gotta remember to keep pulling back ...

So, Friday night is my night out and I can't decide between a movie, a few drinks and dancing or girls night in ... hmmmmmm....

Oh yeah ... got a real ego booster yesterday I had S2 in the grocery cart and he's talking to everyone that goes by ... he says hello to a guy and the guy says HI! back to him. Then S2 points at me and says "that's my Mommy" to which the guy replies, with a smile "you're a lucky little man". Made my day

Peace
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