How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[Truegritter]

I guess it's just what I'm ok with there too? Without regard to his feelings? But without being "mean spirited"?

Yes you're getting it. This is not a game or strategy. It's for YOU. You have to get to a calm place so you can work on yourself.

There may be a time when you can see/talk to H without those feelings and it's called detached with love but you are not there yet.

It takes time and you have to spend the time for YOU, with YOU without H.