This really helps guys. Thanks for responding. I have some thinking to do. What do I say when he asks why I didn't respond? At this point I'm sure he knows it's b/c I'm not happy about the OP contacting him. He'll probably say I punished him for telling the truth by my not responding. Another one that really confuses me is when he wants to come to the house to do chores I can't do/am not good at (i.e. clean the gutters, work on the cars). I have a feeling he's going to start making more of these requests soon as he'll have time off work. And he presents is as what he "wants to do for me".

I guess it's just what I'm ok with there too? Without regard to his feelings? But without being "mean spirited"?

Thanks again

Last edited by amg2; 05/27/10 03:26 AM.
M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years