How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[Truegritter]

amg

I will try to help if I can.

I am not understanding where your R is from your posts.

Are you dark with H and if so why would you be having a convo about his texts with OW?

Ditto for inviting him on vacation with inlaws?

What is the purpose of being dark with him?

I saw that you have been given some very good advice from the very wise folks here. They do this because they have been where you are and want to help.

If your H is in MLC or not MLC or whatever stage he is in

YOU have to take care of YOU. If you are getting upset with H's behavior then you haven't detached enough.

You will know because you will still be confused and in pain. Dark is to protect YOU not to punish H.

It is for you to gain peace so you can concentrate on YOUR journey. You will not be able to do that worrying about the crap H will be throwing your way.

I haven't responded to his text as of yet. I want this BS out of my life.

Do or don't. If you are dark then don't. Do if you want to keep feeling like this. If you want this BS out of your life YOU and ONLY YOU can control by YOUR decisions not H's. YOU decide how to react.

YOU.