still separated, headed for D?

[flowmom]

Newmama, I really don't think that the details of how you interact with H are going to make or break things at this point. I'd love to see you develop more detachment including this:

Ability to exercise emotional self-protection and prevention so as not to experience greater emotional devastation from having hung on beyond a reasonable and rational point.

To be clear, I'm not saying that you've hung on beyond a reasonable and rational point. I think that you've made some steps towards emotional self-protection, but it still worries me that so much energy seems to go into making yourself attractive to WH, and into analyzing his every word and action. I'm not criticizing you or saying you shouldn't post about that here. I'm just saying that your posts seem to reflect a LOT of focus on WH and the hope for reconciliation. You know that I wish that you'll get that opportunity (as long as he is willing to do the necessary work) but that really is out of your hands right now.

You are doing a great job on GAL and on working on your issues...I'm giving you credit for all the GREAT stuff that you're doing. No 2x4s from me. Just some concern for you.

(((hugs)))