Originally Posted By: AtTheEnd?
Take the emotion out of it. How would you treat an acquaintance or a friend? Don't mind read or put tone on an email, this will get you into trouble. Just answer whatever questions, and be direct.

My guess her email is her fear of dealing with any sorts of real issues with you. She is unprepared to deal with you and anything that would elicit an emotional response from you. Human nature is to only deal with easy things, and to avoid anything that causes discomfort. Don't take offense to it, just let it be what it is, and worry only about yourself.


AtTheEnd, I thought your comments were perfect and I wanted to quote them all. You're 100% correct, take out the emotion. I have a tendency to put a tone on her emails. You said it much better than I tried to describe.

Your comments about her being in fear of dealing with certain issues make a lot of sense to me. Maybe that's it? Maybe she doesn't know how to deal with or what to say to those things? Yes, that makes sense.

I'll keep my response nice, upbeat and be direct in responding to her.


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