MLCer or addicted infidel?

[newmama]

Ok I am just getting caught up- when your H said "we should figure out the combining and get on with our lives" WAS HE JOKING around since he knows you are not a fan of that idea? I just don't want to believe he was still testing to see if you would be open to the idea? barf!

He asked: Yesterday you said you were moving on. Is the door still open?

I replied: Why do you ask?

H: Trying to figure things out.

Me: I am focusing on forward. I haven't turned around to look. let me know what you figure out.

Argggh. Now I am sucked into 'what does this mean?'

He could be waiting for me to find someone else and/or file. Or he could mean he is wanting to put his foot in the door. Or he could mean nothing has changed for him but he has noticed a change in me.
I am glad he asked directly. Too bad he doesn't answer so. This is starting to get too dramatic for me.

WN why would your H ask if the door was still open unless he wanted to check to see if he might be able to "come inside" so to speak...or as you said, "put his foot in the door." Of course by now I am learning to not jump on their words, but I just don't see why he would say "trying to figure things out" if he was preparing to D you. However, I know, I know, we aren't supposed to believe anything they say. He has to have a notice a change in you because you have changed, right? Wow. So, is it "carry on, facing forward" like you said but just note his email and file it away? I bet that is what the vets would say!