Maybe I didn't blow it?

[konfuseeed]

Yeah, I would love to... I just can't afford it.

I know to not listen to what my friends say. I just get a lot of pressure from them.

My plan was, and still is, to just stop. Stop it all. Stop contact, stop asking her to do things.

It's all well and good to make a plan like that, but after enjoying spending time with her it's a whole diff'rnt ballgame to actually execute, you know?

I have to though... I HAVE to.

Now the question is, do I even bother to tell her that I can't do it anymore, or do I just stop doing it knowing eventually she'll get the idea.

[fudwoman]

I'm going to go with option 2. The question is - what will you do to balance the equation? You are taking something away - what should you add for yourself?

Think about it!

A

[konfuseeed]

Hiya folks!

I would appreciate some advice on how to reply to the email I just received, if you would.

A little background...

I made awesome Chicken Alfredo Sunday night when she was over...

And...

One of the American Idol Finalists is from the town we used to live in together, and I still currently live in.

There is a HUGE block party tonight for the season finale. They are expecting thousands of people to come, and it is literally right outside my front door.

My wife emailed me today to tell me about it (as if I didnt already know), and I told her I knew, and I was planning on grabbing a six pack and the dog and heading out there after work to mingle.

Just got this email... How to respond?



"I do kinda wish i could come see this.

I would if i didn't have to work.

Unrelated news. I wished i had some of that Alfredo right about now and the other night made me miss you."


Thanks in advance for any advice.

[konfuseeed]

ok, well, I got impatient and replied...

I said this...


"Yeah tonight should be interesting.

The Alfredo was even better as leftovers, and yeah, Sunday night was nice."



Whaddya think?

[mza8]

I think that was perfect. You didn't invite her to join you. You are going by yourself and will have fun without her. You didn't go all "melty man" on her and say you missed her too or anything like that. You just acknowledged her compliment and said you had a nice time too...good job keeping things friendly but not going overboard. I think you did good!

This is the first year I haven't watched AI so I have no idea who are the finalist?

[konfuseeed]

*thumbs up

Thanks.

I have never even watched one minute of American Idol, but the dude from my town is named Lee Dewyze... I think.

[AtTheEnd?]

You did a great job. Relax and treat her as you would treat a good friend, don't go overboard. Keep up what you are doing.

[konfuseeed]

He just won it.

I was in the middle of the crowd they just showed on tv... If anyone was watching it

[konfuseeed]

I was in the blue hat.

[konfuseeed]

Well, the truth came out today. She has been seeing someone else.


Upon that revelation, I told her I was done, and I told her I would be filing for divorce myself, and I hoped her and him were very happy together.

She tried to backtrack and say they were only "dating" and she was not sleeping with him.

I told her I wasn't born yesterday.

She got very mad, told me I was crazy, then told me how she thinks about me all day everyday.

I told her goodbye.


I feel like a bucket of awful right now.