Madonna/Whore Part 8 (aka Attachment Therory)

[Heywyre]

It's a loooooooooooooooong story and you would probably have to go back a few years and many, many postings to get the whole story but the Reader's Digest version of it is 2 A's and well on his way to a third when he got caught again. Not to mention porn, selling drugs, buying expensive vehicles and/or other items without any discussion or input from me etc. etc. Not to mention the total lack of intimacy in our M (we are now up to 1 session of sex (I won't call it love making because it was strictly mechanical on his part) in 4 years - YES 4 YEARS!)

Attachment Theory has some similarities to Madonna/Whore complex and can be in combination to it as well - where my H fits in. The central theme of AT is that mothers who are responsive to their infants' needs establish a sense of security within that infant. Children that do not establish a secure attachment to their mother/caregiver (in my H's case he was adopted) have problems with relationships later in life - particularly intimate relationships

I am well educated and have a good job, I workout, I am in good shape, attractive and have an incredible sex drive. I have had numerous offers from other men in the past number of years but I want more than just the sexual act - I want an emotional connection, which he doesn't know how to provide. I have one friend in particular (male) that I know would like more than just a friendship (and yes H knows about this friend) but this friend is VERY supportive of my M and has encouraged me more than anyone else to keep fighting for it. But even he knows I am at the end of my rope.

I have never been one to brag about myself but have come to realize in the past 6 months that I have A LOT to offer in a relationship and have been sacrificing my needs for way too long. It is now time to take care of me