My ex's OW controls him terribly also.
All my ex cares about is that she pays attention to him. He will do anything as long as she admires and adores him.
Attention is the narcisists drug of choice.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11