Time Will Do the Talking

[kat727]

First things first, I hope you had a great birthday! Well as far as relationships with our ex spouses...it can still be tricky. I will hit 2 years in July. After the D, he gave me a Christmas present. Not from the kids but something he knew I would like, from him. I felt the need to reciprocate only so as not to be rude.(Thank goodness the kids do tell me things sometimes!)

This past holiday it was just a gift from the kids and I think I sent a bag of mint M&M's from me. So we are both are getting more and more detached and somehow on occasion can actually have a conversation. Not anything about relationships you know, but about our beloved Jayhawks and things along those lines. Maybe it helps that he is engaged and will probably get married this fall.

Anyway, I would keep your boundaries. You have a work relationship and really there isn't any reason to bring the past into it. If the gifts make you feel uncomfortable, you will need to tell her that at some point. Maybe she still sees you as you were. I really don't know.

I would also ask yourself if you want to be friends with her. I back you either way but is it something you really want. I know people that years after, when the hurt has faded, can be friends but it is rare.

So are you going to meet us in the middle of July in Tucson? Nothing like being in the heat in summer, but what the heck as long as there is a pool! We are looking at july 15-18 at the moment.

hugs, kat