still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

OK WH just dropped off S. He was dressed up like he was going to work. I greeted them both and focused on S at first. Then WH said "I didn't think you'd be back for awhile!" I said "No, I said between 1:30 and 2." and then he explained they didn't go swimming because he tweaked his back. Well, I did express some sympathy and asked him what happened. He said he was hitting golf balls last weekend and maybe that was it. Then he said "yeah, so on top of this cold, my back hurts and I have so much work to do." I said "wow... that's too bad!"

Then he said he had to go into work next. Again I expressed sympathy "really??" and he said that he was way behind from being out of town last week.

So he went to the bathroom but I stayed by the doorway with S. When he came back, I asked him if he wanted to change anything the next week with the schedule. He just asked if it was ok if he picked S up early on Monday and returned him later in the day since it would be his only day off with him for a long time. I said that was fine.

He asked me if I had plans on Thursday and I paused, genuinely thinking if I did, and asked him the date, and then said no....not at this time, and he said "that's right- your Bunco is the 2nd Thursday of the month" (but I dropped the group but I didn't say anything--I still feel this shows he is tracking or trying to guess what I am doing!!!) and explained that he had a work golf tournament he was going to be doing that night so he wouldn't be able to take S that night. I actually looked right into his eyes, said "Oh," smiled and nodded "knowingly." I remember his work golf tournaments from years past!

He took S and held him and said how he can get S to cuddle with him sometimes and when S rubs his nose on your shirt when he is tired it is so cute. I just said "I know!" then said "well I better get him down for a nap-say goodbye to daddy!"

I headed upstairs to put S down and he headed out and said he'd see "us" tomorrow and I asked "oh yeah what day is today again?" and then said "good luck with your back!"

Now I am feeling kind of like in the future when we discuss the schedule or plans, I should say something that puts me in the power position if that makes sense. Like "I don't know yet but that's okay, I will find babysitting if something comes up."

Overall, I did express sympathy for him BUT it would have been way worse if I didn't, don't you think? And I felt confident the whole time, I was thinking "my hair looks AWESOME today!" and "I am caring, fun and interesting, damn it!" (lol- these were self confidence boosting thoughts)

There is something to be said about the positive thinking plan though- my subconscious has really tapped into it because my actions and body language are now "exuding" what I am thinking...
wonder if it will have an effect?