BH I can understand where you are coming from, but without forgiveness in your heart how much better are you than the person that ran away? My ex h was not in MLC.
I simply did not make excuses for his behavior. What I did do is moved on from the situation and made a good life for S21 and myself. S21 sees that and has turned out to be a wonderful son.
What I did do is when my ex h reached out to me I simply forgave him for his wrongs in life and the path he chose. My ex h has to live with his mistakes for the rest of his life.
How much better off would I be if I held this against him for the rest of my life? Forgiveness can be a wonderful thing. People are of the flesh and they will make mistakes in life. Does that mean we should punish them for the rest of their lives. Trust me they have to live with themselves and their wrong doings. I have made mistakes in this life too. I am not perfect, nor should I expect the next person to be perfect. This is actually something that God has shown me throughout this journey.
BH it sounds like you hold onto bitterness. In the end, BH is that truly what you want? I am sorry that you are still hurting from the past. We just both have different views that's all. Doesn't mean one is better than the other. I just choose a different path for my life than you would.
Forgiveness is not for the other person, but for you.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
