Yes pigskin she seems really conflicted. I think it is a sign of her depression - she suffers from it and has never been treated or refuses to be. It runs in her family. She has been incredibly indecisive about the situation the whole time - comfortable to stay in limbo.
Finally a couple of good friends of hers are pushing her move out because to everyone else on the outside looking it it seems like a crazy situation, where there are all kinds of potential issues that can occur due to her behavior.
I pressed her hard on Sunday, and the past 2 nights she has been staying at 'her' place but coming back in the morning to get kids off to school and back in the evenings until they go to bed.
This will have to end soon. She says she will be completely out when kids finish school in a couple of weeks, so we will see. If she doesn't leave completely at that point I will need to get more aggressive.
On the OW front - My new 'friend' I met recently has been incredibly helpful as well - she is very patient and intelligent and has gone through something similar with her ex-husband and has given me some good advice on how to deal with W. She is telling me to not reveal as much to her about what I want as far as my negotiating goes with the D settlement. The caution for me is that she wants to get serious but realizes I am in no position to do that with everything going on in my life but wants to wait it out while my situation 'resolves'. I have enjoyed talking to her and spending some time with her. She doesn't have her own kids and is very 'available'.
I'm starting to think affairs are an inevitable outcome of depression given all the stories on this board. So many of them (mine included) involve depressed spouses.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
