WAW Using God II

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I've been patient and tried everything.

I will wait for feedback from my W's meeting to decide when to deliver the "Drop OM and go to MC or start the legal process" message. If I get positive feedback - such as her pastor seeing encouraging signs and wanting more sessions with one or both of us, or my W making some effort, I may hold off. If I am told my W is resisting their message, then it's full steam ahead and let the chips fall where they may.

Lead, don't let things happen to you. Choose, decide and take confident action. Letting the chips fall is passive.

Thanks coach. What I'm hoping for is for her to initiate the suggestion to attend MC, rather than me. Then I will agree if she agrees to drop the OM. I will have more confidence that it won't be a waste of time if SHE suggests it.

My W is the sort of person who, if she was intending to do something, and then is TOLD by someone to do it, will not do it at all, just out of stubbornness. I don't want this to happen if her pastor can get her to commit to the marriage without me saying anything.

But I won't sit on my hands if nothing is happening. My timeline is days, not weeks. If I don't hear from her pastor today I will call him tomorrow.