We had another fight on Monday, and all she wanted to know is why I do not talk to her. She said that we must leave town, and that I was to give her a deadling on when it was going to happen. I said give it two years, she said next summer, and that I was to call employment agencies in certain cities and "explain the situation."
I stated calmly that I do not see how moving is going to make her happier. I asked what she wanted to do with the house, and kept going back and forth about selling, renting, or just leave it be. I am not sure what she is thinking, since we owe far more than we could sell it for - not to mention that her brother loaned us a down payment. He's a great guy (why I borrowed the money, actually W asked), but I can't imagine her brother being out the down payment.
Everyone complains about my temper and lack of anger management, and that is why I lost my last job. I have gotten counsiling for my anger, and stress management - it has over the years helped me cope better.
Yesterday, she called to see how I was doing, I was in a meeting and really couln't chat, and she says that sounds great. She asked what I was going to make the kids for dinner. I said I was going to use the meat in the refrigerator, and make a sauce but since my boss was waiting I really did not want to go into details. She berated me for a few minutes, asking what did we discuss I was going to make for dinner. I said I remembered, and tried to hang up - but she wanted to push like I was a two year old. She accuses me of being immature and childish.
She keeps on mentioning how sick and depressed she was, and that I ruined her life, and that I made her this way. I forced her to marry her, I forced to have children, I forced her to cut off contact from my family, I forced her to move west, and then move back to her parents community. She complains that I do not stand up to HER family, and I let her mother rail all over her.
Her last threat was to go to her father, and tell him all the horrible things I have done to her. Again, I am not the best husband, but I think I'm pretty good. I left for a walk (which I frequently do) and only got as far as my wife's uncle's house. I started to explain many of the things going on and got a laugh when I said she wanted to explain things about me to her parents. He said he thought I was doing a good job, the kids are doing great, and I am on top of things. The uncle believe's that the W makes a big deal about everything - and has stated this on several occassions. I mentioned about my temper - and he said, he has never heard anything about it.
In conclusion to my talk with the uncle, he wanted to know what kind of pain killers my wife is on. He said that he thinks she is on far too many medicine and that she may be over dosing and addicted to pain killers, and showed some information about some of the effects of addiction. I got a list together, and will get it to him today or tommorrow.
