Allen, Yes I did mention finances being an issue. Several pages back I posted links to FT. My concern is and has been that if my W agreed to go to FT that she would open up and once again recall the past and relapse to the mindset she currently has "I'll never forgive you, never forget, therefore never be happy with you"
That's not a constructive position and it is something the family therapist is trained to work with... a good one anyways.
You can't NOT go to family therapy simply because you are afraid your wife won't want to cooperate...
If she agrees to go but won't cooperate then she's just wasting her money... and YES... make HER pay for half of it...
If she's willing to spend her money to go someplace and REFUSE to COOPERATE or work on her marriage let her spend her money... YOu can talk to FT about your issues and get something useful out of it.
You really will need to talk to these FT's ahead of your wife anyways... The FT will explain to you how they would handle her stubborness... And if they CAN'T explain it... Find a new FT
