Newbie.Trying with faith and hope to save marriage

[papayachic]

oh yeah, when he would say some thing, I would say "I understand" instead of defending myself or answering back like I would always do.
He picked up on it and said Why do you keep saying you understand. Is that what you have been trained to say.

I said No. But I will not live in anger. I will not try to defend past actions. I hear what you are saying and I understand.