So I wonder why people play mind games!!! I have asked for no contact from my stbxh unless it is in regards to the kids and urgent. He was following this pretty good and I did not have to see him. Until last night, our s10 had baseball and did not want his father to take him so I was going to. My H asked me when I would be leaving and when I would be back, as this is our arrangement, he is only at the house visiting our d15 if I am not there. However yesterday he shows up a half hour early and takes me completely off guard. I do not react and just act normal around him. I then leave with my son thinking well he will be gone when I get back so I made it through seeing him and did not beg for his return. However I get home 20 minutes later than I initially told him and he is still there. Now granted he is trying to repair his relationship with our son, however he knows I do not want to see him and there was no reason for him to stick around. I went about doing laundry and stuff in our basement, he comes downstairs and just starts talking about stuff in general, things I needed to know but not right then or face to face. He then goes upstairs and I tell him to throw down my housecoat (I was going to throw what I was wearing in the washing machine). He does not do this so I ask him again, from the bottom of the stairs as I obviously cannot walk upstairs if he is there in just my underwear. My son then runs down the stairs before my H and instead of just throwing my housecoat down he starts to come downstairs!!! My son stops him and says you do not get to come down here. Now I am fully covered so it is not inappropriate for my son to see me but not necessarily the man who left me! Not sure what he was thinking. We then went back upstairs and I sat at the table looking at photo albums that my daughter was using for a project. I commented on how young he looked and he responded so do you, he then said good night to all of us and left, I said good night but was laughing and acting like it did not bother me at all that he was leaving. I was so proud of myself and felt so good, I did not even cry after he was gone.
About 10 minutes after this I was on the phone with my cousin and my daughter comes in to the room and says Dad texted me and wants you to call him, while I was busy and not about to jump to his request so I kept talking. 5 minutes later she comes back and says Dad just called and got very angry that you were on the phone and not calling him back as well he was questioning who I was talking to. At this point I ended up calling him back and just acted like he had not just freaked out on our daughter and he just had a simple question that did not need to be answered, so I am not sure why he was in such a panic for me to get back to him, but I did not comment, I answered his question and said good night and hung up.
So what the heck is going through his mind, I am not naive enough to think he is waivering or that anything he did last night had to do with me but it was just very strange, especially since we have not seen each other in a bit and I have not indicated to him that he was welcome back in the house whenever he felt like it. Was he just testing me to see if I would freak out so that he can justify that him leaving is the right thing to do?
m-34 w-33 d-15 s-10 m-11 years t-16 years bomb - Feb 24/10
