And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I'm starting to feel like I've got my feet under me ... and starting to realize how long this may, or may not, take. Better to get wrapped up in me than outcomes and timelines ...

PEI,

Wow...ummm that right there says alot.
Your head is in the right place.

I would recommending to armor yourself up a little bit. Figure out hwo you'd feel if he had a physical affair.

I am not saying he did, I am not saying your a wide-eyed wool headed naif. I AM saying that the percentage of MLCers that HAVE affairs and LIE to the LBSer about it...using everything they know and all the buttons they can about and against the LBSer to get away with it is pretty F-ing high. High enough that it is in your best interest to be wary.

I worry about you 'finding' these email address and phone calls?
Accidental is one thing...and in this day and age...highly unlikely that is 'accidental' unless by 'accidental' you mean, you 'accidentally' turned on the omputer, then 'accidentally' clicked on the internet browser he uses, then then you 'accidentally' accessed his email account and 'accidentally' got his password right...or 'accidentally' accessed the internet tools and then 'accidentally clicked the drop down menu and picked history...

One has a better chance of 'accidentally' finding life on Mars than that last example of an 'accidental' string of accidents being a true accident. : )

I'll give you my level best advice.

Just show us you in the real light, not the best light.