Surviving & Thriving

[sandycay]

I will make sure the kids do something for their father. I won't stoop to just sending a text as he did. It seems EXH has called the kids and both kids had good conversations. In fact, S said "I think he is working on it because I said something and he started to reply with hostility and then stopped and changed his tone"

It would be nice if when he came back to the states that he would get the kids for a visit because having only 6 nights to myself since the 1st of the year stinks!

FFG's ex wife was at a softball game we were at for FFG's Daughter and stood literally 3 inches behind our chairs and was talking to another mom. She kept telling story after story about "we" referring to things her and FFG did while they were married and " how much fun "we" had doing blah blah blah"

Later that week he picked up the kids from her at a parade in which she proceeded to stay in the vicinity where he was watching it with the kids (my D was there, I was not) and then ask that he give her a ride back to her car. Now, these are people that don't even really go into each others homes. She has no boundaries.... she threw a fit because we are throwing the kids and end of the year party 16 multi aged kids over night and she wanted to come to his house for the party. He said No and she flipped out.

So, I had to let him know that I found it disrespectful behavior that she was exhibiting towards me... talking that way at the ball game in front of me. And that she probably got some pleasure from the fact that he gave her a ride. (He couldnt' say no in that situation) but I encouraged him to think ahead and not be in those situations.

I have my values and beliefs and I believe that one day we will all be able to be around each other but right now because our (FFG & I) relationship is new.... I dont' need her in it in that capacity. She is a type of woman that likes all of her exes around and sees no problem answering her door in scanty clothes, kissing them on the mouth and inviting them to dinner. She doesn't understand why FFG doesn't do this things..."as it's no big deal". She likes a bevy of men lapping at her heels and she just happens to be broken up from her latest little man. So she has upped her attention to FFG.

So, I am aware that we/he has to share common space and communicate about the kids for schedules and such but she has no boundaries so he needs to keep his stronger as give her an inch she'll take a mile. I was glad he told her she couldn't come to his house for the party.. it's an all day party....seriously why would she want to come? Weirdo!