Snodderly,

Yes, he wants this, he's wanted this for some time now but only slowly and painfully driven us to it. So now he gets what he wants, his freedom from me.

It hurts like all heck. I can't make the pain stop. It just seems so unecessary to me, we had a great life, and wonderful kids, and I really loved him so much. Everything he goes to do now are things I love doing, and always wanted to do with him, but he makes it out like I held him back from that (except maybe OW things!). It's so wrong.

I know that in time this should fade, and that if/when I become who I will be next that I will be OK, but that means HE WILL BE OK TOO. And I don't want that. It's like he knows he will heal from ME, given time, and go on to another life. But why does he have to????