Met with my pastor yesterday and told him that I am looking at my W's meeting with her pastor and women's counselor as a tipping point for my next move. If they are unable to reach her, I don't feel there is anything else I can do.
My pastor was supportive and believes my W has had more than enough time to sort herself out. He basically said that God offers us grace (and this "intervention" by her pastor is an example of it) but it is our choice whether we accept it.
He told me he didn't feel I should have any regrets at this point, and I don't. I've been patient and tried everything.
I will wait for feedback from my W's meeting to decide when to deliver the "Drop OM and go to MC or start the legal process" message. If I get positive feedback - such as her pastor seeing encouraging signs and wanting more sessions with one or both of us, or my W making some effort, I may hold off. If I am told my W is resisting their message, then it's full steam ahead and let the chips fall where they may.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
