Thanks Gr8. Yes, maybe it was a test. Either way I'm glad to be able to go the gym for me. W was there again last night. Man, I try to go late in the evening when she's usually gone but she's been there late the last two nights. Last night she was with her sister. I kept to myself. I noticed W looking in my direction a few times. One of those trying not to look in my direction but looking if you know what I mean. I noticed they were talking a lot and not working out very much. I did my workout and left before she did.

I am getting there, this I know for sure. Right now I need to focus on my job and the house. I'm having lunch with a friend today. He was separated from his W for two years. He is trying to hook me up with a better job than I have now. I hope I get it. It would help me to keep my house without W.

Today is W and I 20 year anniversary of our first date, being together. I'm not doing anything for W today. No flowers, no card, no texting, nothing. I talked to a friend of mine yesterday who knows the sitch. She told me NOT to do anything for W today. She said W will probably wonder why I didn't do anything today for our anniversary. She thought I was getting stronger and thought this was good. She thinks there's still hope but I need to take the strong and silent approach. She said that she thinks my W probably asks about me when she runs into mutual friends. I would be suprised by this.

Still no reply email from W from my email on Monday about me moving back into the house and my other comments (real estate agent, helping with housework, etc.).


M 38
WAW 36
Together 19 years
Married 12 years
Bomb/Separated Oct. 09
I love my wife
Sitch