still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

OK I promise to stay with the "upper hand" and keep my distance and take it slow... as for being distant, no problem because I am starting to have a fun time with my life!

Now before I tell about last night, I did do this which I really hope isn't pursuing or looking weak--here is the set up:

WH is taking S swimming which is near the house.He will be done around 12. In the past, I had told him that I can take S at 12 and he can leave.

Well I will be at my therapist's downtown office and will be gone from the house 11:15ish-1:30ish.

I told WH that I had a dr. appt. at 12. At the drop off he said "ok so you'll be back around 1?" I said "No, more like 2...maybe 1:30." Again, he looked puzzled. He has no clue where my appointment is, what it is for, or where it is.

OK SO HERE IS WHAT I DID-
Because it is his last day off for a long time, I decided it was ok if he stayed at the house with S after swim class until I returned.

Last night I sent him a text that said "I hope you know it's ok with me if you take S back to the house til I get back from the dr. I have fixins for his lunch in the fridge!"

He replied "Ok! Thank you and thanks again for meeting me in the parking lot this afternoon!"

I didn't reply.

SO I hope I didn't blow it- I was being nice and since I wasn't going to be at the house, I figured he might as well be there with S. Hey there could be a benefit- it has been a month since he has been inside. I made some changes like I slightly changed the furniture, I bought some new drinking glasses I had been eyeing for months and months, and S has a bunch of new toys. Maybe WH will feel how much he misses being in his house!

And when I return I will definitely go back to being polite but show him I want to leave- with the same body language I have been doing in the past.

So was that ok????If it was bad, I need to know that too.