"NO CONTACT" means "NO CONTACT" what about that is so hard to comprehend? I am not sure you understand the seriousness of defying a court order.
In regards to the "mutual friend" of whom you stated: "She advised I should write a letter and not talk about the M or getting back together, and that I just want to be CIVIL and friendly for our DDs sake." What kind of "friend" would encourage you to do something with such potentially disasterous long term consequences? and if you do it by computer, do you believe that can't be traced? Are you aware that "stalking" is considered a serious crime these days? I find it hard to believe that a friend with your best interests at heart would recommend such a thing.
I would also be very suspicious that I was getting the straight scoop from a "friend" who says "he's not a bf"....he's ONLY the bosses son...whom she showed up at the court hearing to hold hands and pray with....and she LIVES WITH THE BOSS. Man, the more I think about it, you are being gaslighted, and I believe the friend is not as "mutual" as you seem to think.
