Yes, that sounds frustrating. Of course these discussions shouldn't be had in front of daughter as you know. But if I were you, it would be difficult for me to hear him get on his high horse about the children after his past behavior in front of them.
Yes, you are correct. He does not want to deal with your feelings. He cannot deal with his own. You are going to have to be strong and get help with your feelings elsewhere unfortunately (church, family, friends, writing it down on a piece of paper and throwing it away!, counseling if possible).
