MY s8 called his Father yestaerday from anew phone I guess XH didnt reconize number so he picked up -son said daddy--xh said is this (name of son 8 ) so xh said he cant talk he will call son back in 10 minutes then xh turned his phone off and son kept trying and D tried calling no pick up ---this is a fathers reaction to his biological children
Reading that made me cry. It is very sad. The only thing I can offer is that some people would rather shut out their loved ones because they can't cope with the pain...
About two weeks ago my 10-year old son calls me after school crying. When I ask why he tells me this story about getting sent to the principal's office with 2 other boys. (2 other boys were trying to cheat off my son's test, and my son refused.) Anyways, I asked him if he told his mom. (who moved out 3 months ago with our 2-year old daughter, involved in EA with a guy in China who she hasn't seen in 20+ years, MLC...etc, etc...) In any case, he starts crying more and tells me, "No. I'm afraid to tell mom." I ask why. He says, "Because I'm afraid mom's going to get mad at me, she's mean these days, and she won't stop talking." To put this in context, in the past, 10 out of 10 times Gabe would always go to mom first. When her 'crisis' hit I became the devil, my son was supposedly 'afraid' of me, blah, blah, blah... It broke my heart to hear my son sobbing and telling ME he's afraid to tell his own mother the story first... It's very sad what happens with our spouses. I'm certainly no angel, but I suppose the best I (we all) can do is to try and be compassionate about what our MLC spouses are dealing with. It's got to be hell for them...well, at least if they have any shred of conscience about the damage they cause...
Anyhow, I feel for you peacetoday. Try to keep a positive attitude about things.
