I wish I knew for sure how long the R with OW has really been going on. In Aug. he said about a year but I believe that it had just gotten physical shortly before he told me about it and that is why he told me...guilt. It doesn't really matter...they have been with each other full time for almost 5mos. so yes, this counld continue for quite awhile...heck, maybe even forever. Have decided that she can have THIS H...I'll take the new and improved one back, IF that happens!
Hope you are having a good day!
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You know NLT and CW I've thought that very same thing. I don't want the H that mine is now, back. Let ow have the depressed, surly, whining, sulking, arrogant teenager.
I put up with that for almost 2 years before H left.
Although he may have thought he was happy for a while with her there are many little incidences that show that things aren't all happy go lucky on fantasy island. For instance, when H had the D's out to lunch the weekend before last, ow texted him. H looked at his phone, sighed, opened it and texted her back. Put the phone away. A little bit later another text comes in. OW again. This time H sighs heavily, texted her back, snapped his phone shut and turned it off!
Now this is only a little less than 8 months into their R. You'd think the honeymoon would have lasted longer. I feel so bad for them... NOT!
With my ex in lala land, way on the other side of the world I'm not really sure how the R is now. But according to his friend he didn't know my ex, said he was spineless, which is not my H at all! And, he even made the comment to his friend something about having a bossy wife. So, who knows. By me getting these emails all along from ow it just tells me things are not that great or she wouldn't have to let me know how "wonderful" their life is now & the "wonderful" family they are now.
NLT, I too, think that if your XH and W were stable she wouldn't be sending out emails on how 'happy' they are. I think sending out things like that to the XW clearly shows that she is still threatened by you still even after all this time. Either that or she gets pleasure out of thinking that she's hurting you and that is really sick. Either way the woman is clearly a psycho.
I agree with Snodderly that it was very strange for you to get a call from XSIL inquiring as to how you were doing. Sounds like an info. gathering mission to me. Good on you for not giving her anything. She could have very well been sucked in by the wife, especially if XSIL turned to her asking for help with her H. Strange that she didn't mention the baby. Has anybody seen proof that they actually did adopt? At their ages it all seems so strange.
It never ceases to amaze me how bizarre our stories all are. Seemingly rational people who take a dive off the deep end. Of course we jump in after them trying to save them and then realize we can only save ourselves. Hopefully at some point they'll come to the same conclusion.
NLT, you're doing great handling everything with grace and dignity.
NLT, you're doing great handling everything with grace and dignity.
Ah SA, I'm blushing! Thank you so much for saying that!! I'm not sure, but I do thank you!!!
In my opinion & of course I'm not really sure but I think ow knew the love we had for each other, so I do think she still feels threatened by me, but also at the same time, I think she wants to get pleasure out of hurting me. So, a little of both. You are right, she is clearly a psycho. I've said many times that I don't think Hollywood could write this script.
I just thought after about a year that xsil calls was very strange too!! Thank goodness I was smart for a change & didn't ask or give up any info. I just knew she would tell me about the baby, but she didn't. I've seen pictures of the baby, the ow sent them to me, one with her holding the baby & one with ex holding it. That is the picture that I didn't think he looked very happy in for sure. I could really see it in his eyes & what little smile was on his face was fake. Plus, on ex's brothers facebook, he has his wall open to read & they have talked about it. Ow asked if he would come visit when he went to Thailand he said he would be bringing gifts for the baby.
I still think they may have gotten that baby illegally b/c they were not there that long before they were getting one. Just seems really strange, but I guess lots can be done in other countries.
I always thought my ex was a rational person, but he proved me wrong! When he wakes up out of MLC, he will be in for a huge surprise! If he ever wakes up.
Nothing new on my end! Just reading some of your threads.
I mowed the yard this afternoon & just finished when a rain cloud came up. The wind started blowing really hard right before I finished & it sprinkled a little but it's done now. There was a limb that blew off a tree in the front yard, it's not too big like some of them so I will get it tomorrow.
It is hard doing everything yourself & sometimes I get so tired! But when I'm finished it looks good & I'm proud that I have been able to handle it so far.
