No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

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Mr Bond and Sandi2:
Sorry to hear of your struggles, MrBond, my heart goes out to you. I am in a somewhat similar sitch, with a very depressed W who is very unhappy and focussed on D as a way to get out of her depression. She sounds very much like your W and the Sandi2 of long ago, and I am equally puzzled how to deal with the sitch.

I have a question for the two of you. I just left on a 2.5 week business trip, and am planning on NC during that time. Unlike your W, my W admits to major depression and is on some serious meds. I am concerned about dropping the rope and going NC during this time, as I recognize she is very depressed, has been for quite a while, and there is no end in sight. I fear that I might drive her deeper into depression, instead of having her recognize what she is losing through D. I have been there as a friend for her throughout, but think that I need to do something different like NC/LRT to change the momentum, but is this wise with a deeply depressed W?

Don't mean to hijack your thread, so I apologise for the question. I am simply looking for advice from those with similar experience.

Thoughts are with you, MrBond. Thanks much.