Does your W do much reading? I don't mean the romantic nonsense but informative reads. I'm thinking that she has to have an object to blame her unhappiness on...and all she really has (in her mind) is the M to blame. As long as she is looking for "something" to come along and make her happy, then she may not get better. That's a dreadful thought!
When I was in my very early twenties, I kept waiting for our "ship to come in".....how silly is that? But sometimes people have this type of mentality that seems more like a fantasy. I had to grow up and realize those ships only came in on TV shows.
When I was going to church during the time I was still in contact with OM, there were times I didn't do anything but just try to get through the service. When I "did" pray....it was usually two words that said "help me". We can't ever really know what is happening in another person's heart.
If there is an award for patient, you should be close to the top! I know you want to grab hold of her and yank her back into reality and that is why you tend to press her. You want her to wake up and stop messing around. You feel she is wasting life with the girls and the two of you.
I wish I knew what you could do. Sometimes a sense of loss or shock will snap a person out of MLC or WAW syndrome. However, if she is that deep in depression that nothing seems to move her...then I don't know that loss or shock would snap her out but rather push her down further.
God, I wish she'd get herself to a HRT doctor.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
