Well, I have been trying to keep the "detach" webpage in mind.
Right now it seems a LOT like withdrawl. Maybe that is just how it starts.
My H came home from counseling with a book "Getting the love you want". I am guessing that his IC reccomended it (he is not really a "book browser.") At first I thought "great! a selfish titled book! To bad they don't sell one that says "get everything you want from your spouse in 3 minutes!"
On Amazon, it said the book is about IMAGO relationship therapy. ((Sounds a little new age to me.))
But the core to this DOES deal with childhood issues, and looking at patterns and concious selection of partners. This is something I think a MLC refuses to face.
It also talks about conciously picking out a partner the has traits that you lack or are attracted to because that is how you were raised. My engineer H would be attracted to this type of thinking- I beleive.
I am trying to work on my own issues/happiness and life. It is so very hard to detach when you live with them.
