No, the bonehead didn’t name you, but he would be a FOOL not to listen.
You still teach me something almost everyday…
So E—if you listen to nothing else from me, LISTEN to B.
Your plans are good. I especially like that you are gonna finish school. I just hope you don’t attach too much of your intelligence to that. You are very smart. With or without it.
Slow down a bit E. To a degree we do control how long we feel the way we feel, but if you rush it, you will bury the feelings, instead of feeling and processing them, and they will come back later.
Learn to recognize the behaviors that you feel were controlling. Change them.
Learn to recognize the behaviors that you think were selfish. Change those.
We are/were afraid that someone would leave us. That is normal. Human beings are, by design, pack animals. We need other people. We were not meant to spend our lives alone.
Some people though, are only meant to be in our lives for a minute. Some for a season. Some for a lifetime.
That does not mean there is something wrong with us, it just means that their purpose in our lives, is complete. So really, just because someone doesn’t remain in our lives forever, doesn’t mean that we have been abandoned. It just means that they have moved on to complete their next task. And WE must do the same.
When you can accept that…
When you can welcome someone for as long as they are meant to be in your life and enjoy that, instead of worrying all of the time that they won’t be someday, you will find that you enjoy that person more. You will learn more, love more, and if they go, you will miss them, but you will also be able to be really grateful for their presence…
I have met many great people here, some of them, I want to have around for a very long time. But that may not be their purpose in my life. I have to accept that. While I do fear “losing” them, I don’t fear being without them. Because they will always be with me, in my heart. I don’t know if that makes sense but I hope it does.
Keep stepping E, minute by minute, day by day…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
