NLT, I too, think that if your XH and W were stable she wouldn't be sending out emails on how 'happy' they are. I think sending out things like that to the XW clearly shows that she is still threatened by you still even after all this time. Either that or she gets pleasure out of thinking that she's hurting you and that is really sick. Either way the woman is clearly a psycho.
I agree with Snodderly that it was very strange for you to get a call from XSIL inquiring as to how you were doing. Sounds like an info. gathering mission to me. Good on you for not giving her anything. She could have very well been sucked in by the wife, especially if XSIL turned to her asking for help with her H. Strange that she didn't mention the baby. Has anybody seen proof that they actually did adopt? At their ages it all seems so strange.
It never ceases to amaze me how bizarre our stories all are. Seemingly rational people who take a dive off the deep end. Of course we jump in after them trying to save them and then realize we can only save ourselves. Hopefully at some point they'll come to the same conclusion.
NLT, you're doing great handling everything with grace and dignity.
