With my ex in lala land, way on the other side of the world I'm not really sure how the R is now. But according to his friend he didn't know my ex, said he was spineless, which is not my H at all! And, he even made the comment to his friend something about having a bossy wife. So, who knows. By me getting these emails all along from ow it just tells me things are not that great or she wouldn't have to let me know how "wonderful" their life is now & the "wonderful" family they are now.