Yuck, yuck, and YUCK!!!! I'm so sorry Luv. It's one thing (and a sh!tty thing) to do/say stuff to you; it's a whole other thing to do it to the kids. I'm sorry, but he's acting like a first-rate ass. Interesting how they have to justify leaving by probably turning us into monsters in their minds - but the WAS behavior leaves much to be desired. I'm so sorry to hear about his behavior.
What are you doing to take care of you?
((((Luv))))
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.