Q : Is this counsellor a FAMILY THERAPIST or an analyst of some sort... ?
1. Make SURE this is a GOOD FAMILY THERAPIST who is TRAINED in working with INFIDELITY... Ask in ADVANCE how they HANDLE family therapy when one of the spouses is actively in an affair... Ask LOTS of QUESTIONS BEFORE your H gets involved so you KNOW EXACTLY what you are getting him INTO.
2. Also... Have you gone to the therapist first? ALWAYS SCREEN the FT FIRST so you KNOW who you are SENDING your H to... never go to a FT blind with your husband with you... a LOT of them make things WORSE.. Buyer beware
3. They CAN help, but you DO need to be VERY SELECTIVE
4. Lots of people here have fought affairs and their spouses have returned... but you DO have to take an active role in combatting the affair directly... tip toeing around it will NOT HELP. There is a LOT of hope yet... An affair is not the end of a marriage... Lots of people here have worked to bring their spouses back...
5. Post as much detail as you can on this forum and we can try to help you further.
NOTE : Please try to use line breaks often, tables, lists, summaries etc... Try not to just spew everything in one huge paragraph as it makes it very hard to follow and help you out.
